Sitting with Death and Choosing Life

Skills and practices for nurturing yourself through grief so you can fully realise the transformational possibilities in life’s hardest challenges 

This Nine Week Transformational Programme Starts in October

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If you are suffering from a significant loss in the death of a loved one, bad news about your own health, or you’re going through a testing process of transition, you may feel you have plunged into a desolate journey with no end in sight.

Even if you are normally a highly skilled and resourceful person, someone who serves and leads others, in grief we are always beginners and, where you are used to being empowered, you may now find yourself floundering. When loss takes your life apart and strips you to the bone, it’s quite common to feel at the mercy of a scary, heart-breaking and all-consuming process, for which you are completely unprepared.

This is an invitation to join me for a nine week programme to explore basic understandings, enlightened perspectives and simple practices to give you optimal support through your grieving process. 


By participating in this programme you will  have the opportunity to:

  •  Become active in shaping your healing
  •  Develop skills for co-operating with the transformational power within grief,
  •  Realise  the gifts that are buried in the heart of your pain. 
  •  Transform loss into new, vibrant life choices.

Even if you are not experiencing a pressing current loss, the skills and framework of this course will be valuable to anyone who wants to live with more self-love and compassion for others.  

 Alongside personal inquiry and practices, you will participate in a small coaching group of no more than seven people, facilitated by Rose,  giving you a safe and intimate space to explore your experiences.  


Through participating in this programme you will receive:

 

  • A copy of Rose Diamond’s e-book, Sitting with Death and Choosing Life
  • Nine weekly, online sessions of self-inquiry and experiential learning,
    including:

    • – Explorations of key themes through short video or audio teachings;
    • – Questions for reflection and inquiry to help you explore your experience and discover your own truths;
  • Experiential practices to develop skills in self support and self nurturance;
    • –  Guided meditations you can use again and again.
  • Three 90 minute small group coaching sessions facilitated by Rose and in a group of no more than seven people, where you will have a safe and intimate space to explore your experiences, and the support to move through and beyond old sticking places, dive deeper and make essential shifts in consciousness.
  • Recorded conversations with practitioners and healers sharing their own stories of transition and the solutions that work for them.

One of the most valuable aspects of this course is the holding it will provide for you. The group, the content of the course, the time frame and the skilled guidance of your facilitator, Rose, all serve to provide an intentional, energetic container which is at once both sensitive and expansive, allowing and motivational.


 Reserve your place now, registration
closes on June 10th

fee: £150/ US $200 

£150.00 Add to cart

If you feel drawn to this work and your financial resources are limited,
there are scholarships available.
Please contact me.

Registration closes on June 10th. Once you have registered you will receive the e-book and an email from Rose outlining the course and next steps.


Find more detail about the course below.

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Grieving is one of the most taxing of human experiences.

Grief is a mysterious, complex, intense and lonely process which takes us deep into the inner world, into the unknown and the chaos of unpredictable emotions. We all do our best to get through and manage our grief, making the best adaptations we can but, because grief is not very welcome in our culture, most of us tend to see intense emotion and vulnerability as something to be avoided or kept hidden. This can lead to numbing the body and the mind, cutting short the grieving process, or on the other hand, getting stuck in  despair and depression. These interruptions in the flow of grief can then affect our health and well-being for years to come.

Gather the resources and skills for grieving well

Grief and loss are a natural and inevitable part of being human which we all share and yet, sadly, most people don’t have the necessary tools, understandings and support to fully open to grief.  When you decide to become your own best friend through grief and meet your losses fully, giving yourself time to accept and integrate them, suffering is transformed into a deepening of the self and an acceptance of what it means to be human.  This in turn renders the gifts of love, acceptance, forgiveness, compassion, grace and a renewed and strengthened meaning and purpose.

Loss and grief are natural parts of being human

We all lose people we love through separation or death;

We all experience failure and disillusionment and lose sight of cherished dreams;

We all learn, at one time or another, to cope with and manage changes in our bodies, deteriorating health in ourselves and our loved ones;

We all face ageing and the approach of our own dying;

We are all, at times, overwhelmed and broken hearted by unwanted changes in our world, the destruction of nature, wars and social injustice;

And, for those on a conscious spiritual path, losing illusions about the self and throwing off outworn identities is intrinsic to the path, a sign of progress – and very challenging!

If you are 50+ you have probably experienced considerable loss in your life and, right now, you may be facing the deaths or life threatening illnesses of family members; or trying to come to terms with menopause or other bodily changes; you may have experienced divorce, the loss of home or livelihood, children leaving home, or perhaps the most painful of all – the death of a child.

But you don’t have to be in later life to have experienced loss. For many of us the pain of loss starts in childhood when trust and innocence are broken.  The earlier your losses began the more likely it is you haven’t processed these painful experiences fully and they are still buried in your body and mind, using the energy you need for living, stealing your joy, compromising your choices and preventing you from moving forward confidently.

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Here are some of the common symptoms of grief you may be experiencing:

  • Your loss seems to suck every last bit of energy and vitality from your body until every cell is trembling and sick with grief and you don’t know how to go on. As grief reduces you to zero, simply getting through the day takes an immense act of courage and endurance.
  • Even when you are surrounded by friends and family, each grieving process is so unique and difficult to communicate, you can feel isolated and deprived of all your normal powers of resilience and comfort.
  • When your powers to create positive change abandon you, and your usual passions and survival strategies no longer hold any meaning or attraction, you may feel like a scared and helpless beginner. Feelings of shame prolong the grieving process.
  • Even when the death of your family member, partner or friend is expected and prepared for, the sense of being severed from them at the end, can cause a traumatic reaction which leaves you feeling shattered and fragmented. This may be even more acute when the death is sudden and unexpected.
  • You have a desperate need to find peace and acceptance yet your faith in life is shaken to the core and your habitual ways of making sense of life are eclipsed. On top of your sorrow, feelings of remorse, regret, guilt, self-doubt and self-criticism can make the journey even harder.

If this sounds extreme, then it is! And yet grief is normal and necessary. Even within the pain and darkness, a seed of hope and new beginnings lies waiting to be revealed.

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This is a story of transformation. Whether death comes in the form of losing a loved one, facing our own mortality through ageing or ill health, or allowing ourselves to feel the impact of the ecological and humanitarian crises in our world, when death invites us into a greater intimacy with the darker, shadow side of human nature – our own and that of our species – if we do not shy away, we may open to the gifts and unknown mysteries of being human. Entering the unknown may be scary because it requires us to leave behind our old ideas of who we are and how life works yet, as we develop strength and learn to live in the moment – here and now – a new trust and spaciousness arises. It is in this trusting space that the possibilities for new life may be gathered.  

– From the Sitting with Death e-book

Our culture encourages us to avoid grief – and there’s a big cost to this avoidance 

It takes time and conscious intent to grieve well. Grief unfolds in its own time and, in our busy western world, there is little understanding of death, dying, loss and grief. We are not very allowing of the grieving process or of emotions in general, and the need for quiet introspection may be judged as self-indulgent.  Other than the funeral, we have no cultural rituals to celebrate death as a natural part of the life cycle. Even talking about death is often regarded as morbid and, for many people,  the expression of strong emotions is seen as a shameful weakness to be hidden away in private. When there’s work to do and the family to be looked after it’s difficult to find the quiet, solitude necessary for the deep introspection grief requires.

Have you ever stopped to wonder what happens to all those strong emotions of grief when you push them aside?  Where does all that energy go?

The consequences of neglecting or avoiding the deeply hurting self, are considerable and can be life threatening. Whenever you attempt to suppress the pain of grieving and turn back the tide of emotions, you contract the body and literally harden the heart. The energy of grief has nowhere to go and becomes trapped and stored in the cells where it silently wreaks havoc with your physical, emotional and mental health. Many of the major diseases of our time – heart disease, cancer, diabetes, eating disorders, addictions of all kinds – have their origins in unprocessed emotions and grief. That’s how important this is.

Life involves many losses and whatever has not been released and completed, piles on top of the last unexamined grief, and since this makes it even harder to approach, we stuff it all down even harder. It is only when we have the time to sit with the deeper self we realize there is something preventing us from embracing life fully – our unprocessed grief sits like a block of ice around the heart.

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We humans need closure and yet so many things in life and in death can’t be neatly tidied away.  Grieving demands that we go beyond our need for order and step into the unknown. Grief invites us to sit with death naked, eye to eye. Grieving is a form of love, and like love and creative freedom, it’s disorderly and won’t be contained in any convenient boxes.

– From the Sitting with Death e-book

How you can transform grief into a gift 

Imagine how your grieving process might be different if you felt 100% confident that:

  • Even though this is a time of emotional intensity, the more you learn about it, the more you realise, everything you experience in grief is “normal”, “o.k” and widely shared as part of being human. You are not “crazy”, “sick” or shameful when you feel deeply. In fact, feeling deeply is the key to successful grieving and successful living.
  • As you learn to pay attention to, and trust, the deep wisdom and healing power of the self, becoming more aware of how you need to nurture yourself to maintain your well-being, you become your own best friend and grow your inner strength and authenticity.
  • As you recognise grieving fully is essential for well-being, you develop the skills to move through grief with love and acceptance, taking all the time and rest you need. You begin to co-operate with the process of transformation rather than resisting it. Then your innate wisdom carries you forward toward renewed energy and passion for life.
  • During the grieving process, there will be times when you simply don’t recognize yourself. Paradoxically, it is when you feel at your most vulnerable, that you start to contact your real strength. This may appear in new and unfamiliar ways but, because you have chosen to really show up for yourself by sitting with your pain, giving it space and listening deeply to the messages it holds for you, every step you take from now on, will be on a much firmer foundation.
  • As you become more skilled at being present with whatever you are experiencing in the grieving process, and able to name ever more subtle emotional states, you breathe fresh air into your experience and open up more space and more enlightened perspectives. Although the journey remains challenging you grow ever more confident that you can and will reach the light at the end of the tunnel.
  • Learning the common symptoms of shock and trauma, along with simple practices you can do daily to support yourself, you begin to heal not only from this loss but from all your previous losses.
  • Grief offers a wonderful opportunity to become more aware of mental patterns that have been limiting you for a lifetime, such as self criticism and self doubt, and to transform these into acceptance, forgiveness and compassion. Learning to grieve well really does provide you with a tool box for living well.
  • Another reason why we tend to keep grief to ourselves is because well-meaning friends and even family members lack the skills to fully meet us when we are hurting and this can lead to increased frustration and self isolation.

Imagine how liberating it could be to be part of a group of people who are developing a common language by learning together how to put words to the ever more subtle experiences of the inner world.

What I am not offering, what I am offering and who this is for:

This course does not offer grief counselling or psychotherapy. I worked as a Gestalt therapist for 25 years and have trained hundreds of counsellors, and I fully endorse the value of these approaches. If you are needing someone to talk with 1-1 over time, then I encourage you to find a local trusted counsellor or therapist who can help. What I am offering here is support to move through a transformational process which puts you at the centre of your own healing and wholing. This will work best for people on a conscious spiritual path who already have some understanding of the territory of transition and shifting pyscho-spiritual states. If you resonate with the language and ideas I am using here, you are probably well suited to this approach.

Through the clarity and stillness of Rose’s presence, I was able to connect with the language of my spirit, my quiet inner knowing and wise self healer. I became aware of and integrated issues in a gentle yet deeply profound way.”
Lea Neumann, Rebirther

Thank you Rose, for your gently loving strength, which enabled me to release deep unforgiving pain within my self.
Adam Mills, 

Rose has the rare ability to guide and direct a group whilst being a part of it. She has an unerring talent for hitting the core issue and keeping heart-focused while one works through it. Thank you, Rose!
Mitzi Kivett,  Healer

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Hello, I’m Rose Diamond

Six months ago, if anyone had told me I would be feeling passionate about the transformational possibilities in death, loss and grieving, I would have found that difficult to believe.  But now, after a deep and challenging journey with death last year, I know grieving fully and well holds the key, not only for individual transformation, but for a positive life enhancing shift in our culture.

My desire to learn how to heal and empower myself and to pass on what I’ve learned to others began as a sensitive, caring empath in a dysfunctional family and traumatised childhood.  This created in me both a strong desire to heal and make whole what has been disconnected and broken and an unstoppable urge towards liberation and justice. As I grew into adulthood, this led me to work as a teacher, as a gestalt therapist,  as a change agent and a professional development trainer. I taught the skills of counselling and psychotherapy  and applied my gestalt skills in facilitating health professionals and community leaders in leadership and communication skills. During the  25 years of this intense up-close and personal work,  I was privileged to facilitate many hundreds of people helping them transform the heartaches of their lives into new meaning and purpose and to teach them the skills for helping others.

My family also sowed the seeds in me to set off on a lifelong quest for self-liberation and women’s empowerment, and then on a journey to know the soul. My healing journey has included many years of doing my own therapy, bodywork and group process, many more years of intensive spiritual practice and study, and then still more years learning about soul and the process of transformation.  From this fertile mix, in 2000, I began to build a body of work exploring transition, transformation and the awakening of consciousness, which I presented first through my website, A Whole New World and now through Tribe in Transition.

My discovery of the inner world began nearly 40 years ago when I started writing poetry and writing has been my passion and saving grace ever since. Last year, I lost my closest friend and my only brother, who died within six months of each other. I wrote Portrait of a Gentle Man to help me come to terms with my friend’s death and then Sitting with Death and Choosing Life, following my brother’s death. Writing these e-books has enabled me to see how much of my life story has been a training in how to grieve well.

I work as a Soul Work Guide, holding a space in which you can connect with your own wisdom, healing intelligence and authentic power.

To hear more about my personal story and  how I come to be offering you a programme exploring death, grief and loss, please listen here:

To find out more about me,  my writing, my professional experience and expertise, the evolution of my transformational work and the services I offer go here.

It seems clear to me, not only are there many of us suffering individual losses, as friends and family members depart life on Earth, but also we are collectively in a process of transition from old conditioned dysfunctional ways of living, to discovering new ways of being together on the planet that honour and celebrate life. This transition is extremely challenging on a psycho-spiritual level as well as on a practical everyday level. It is a process of dying to the old and choosing to create anew and it requires us to live on our growing edge.

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Please join me for this six week programme to give you optimal support through your grieving process  and  develop the skills to transform loss into new, vibrant life choices. Even if you are not experiencing a pressing current loss, the skills and framework of this course will be valuable to anyone who wants to live with more self-love and love of others.  

“In relation to my own growth as well as my professional development, I have found Rose Diamond’s teaching to be one of the most profound experiences of my life. Rose worked with each of us in a gentle yet focused and powerful way. I was thus able to increase my awareness and move through some major personal impasses. I feel myself emerging stronger and more alive at the same time. Because of this I can wholeheartedly recommend Rose Diamond’s teaching to anyone interested in learning about themselves or for their professional development “ Birgit, Counselling student.

 

“Rose is a wise and compassionate person, an extraordinarily gifted facilitator, teacher, writer and visionary, and totally committed to providing holistic and balanced experiential programmes for integrated personal growth of body, mind, emotions, and spirit.”  Annie Pepper, Social Worker, USA   

 

“ Working with Rose has been crucial in my personal growth journey. Her facilitation is natural and allowing, with a strong yet gentle energetic support. I have found her flowing style of total presence refreshing in a field that is often so busy with information and techniques. Being supported to accept my journey without a mental struggle and be here now has allowed me to grow enormously. I have experienced shifting blocked energy within minutes with Rose’s skillful awareness. My own role as a trainer and therapist has expanded beautifully since experiencing Rose’s courses. I highly recommend her workshops, courses and private sessions.” Dawn Grace Kelly, spiritual teacher and healer, New Zealand

The skills I have been learning with Rose really have improved the quality of my life. I am inspired as I experience inner peace becoming a reality within myself. These concepts and practices have a broad application within the local community and the potential to link the human race together through increased tolerance. Rose’s diverse experience in education and her other life experiences have given her the brilliant ability to help others develop an awareness of compassionate communication and inner peace and to spread this through community based action as we transform and empower our lives. As we plant the seeds of inner peace one person at a time, we see an increase in compassion, consideration, and care for each other, and as a result, for our world.
Beth Hertzler, Regeneration therapist, Qi-Qong Master

 What the Sitting with Death 9 week programme offers

Through participating in this programme, you will have the opportunity to become active in shaping your healing and to develop skills for co-operating with the transformational power of grief, so that you can realise all the gifts that are buried in the heart of your pain.

There are no magic formulas or trendy techniques in this course. What I am offering you are basic understandings, enlightened perspectives and simple practices to which I invite you to bring your intention, attention, curiosity, courage and above all your willingness to show up 100% for yourself. In other words, YOU are the magic formula and I am here as your facilitator and guide.

Here is what you will receive:

  • 9 weekly sessions of self inquiry and experiential learning,  one session each week via email. This will consist of a short video or audio in which Rose leads you through the week’s theme, followed by questions for exploration, reflection and inquiry, through which you will explore your own experience.
  • Simple daily practices, some of which will be supported by audios, which you can listen to again and again.
  • Three, 90 minute, small group coaching sessions, in weeks two, four and six. These will take place on zoom, in a group of no more than seven participants and facilitated by Rose.  The small group provides the opportunity for you to step out of isolation and discover the emerging common themes.  You will also receive personal coaching  within the group to help you move through stuck places and take your next steps.
  • Rose’s e-book, Sitting with Death will further illuminate the content of the course and encourage you to accept and value your experience, however uncomfortable you feel.
  • Recorded conversations with practitioners and healers sharing their own stories of transition and the solutions that work for them.

One of the most valuable aspects of this course is the holding it will provide for you. The group, the content of the course, the time frame and the skilled guidance of your facilitator, Rose, all serve to provide an intentional, energetic container which is at once both sensitive and expansive, allowing and motivational.

This is what we will cover:

  • Why learning to grieve well is so important; clarifying your intention and commitment.

We will explore the importance of making space for grief, what happens to the body/mind when you don’t grieve well and the transformation and renewal that comes when you do. You will be guided to name your experience and identify the biggest challenges you are facing in your grieving process.

 

  • Being your own healer and trusting the wisdom of the body as you release shock and trauma.

The shock of a death, or another major loss, often activates old trauma that has been held in the body. This can give rise to the experience of disassociation and fragmentation, which in turn creates fear, anxiety and deep rooted feelings of helplessness. The practices in this session introduce the skills we will be focusing on in this programme: intention, vision, presence, awareness, self-nurturance, inclusion and acceptance – as a toolbox you can always take with you for self-healing. 

  • Identifying your authentic values and creating your inner healing sanctuary.

Self-nurturance is at the heart of this course. You are invited to commit to providing the unique conditions you need in which your grief can be lovingly held and transformed, creating a sacred space or inner sanctuary for your healing.  Many people report that in the tempest of grief their nearest companions often don’t understand what they’re going through and this can become a further drain on confidence. By withdrawing that need from others and instead learning to connect with, love and trust the deep wisdom and healing power of the self, you lay the foundation for resilience, authenticity and inner peace.

  • Transforming pain into strength by welcoming all your emotions.

Nobody can take your pain away, in fact it would be wrong to try. The greatest gifts of grief lie at the heart of your pain. Within your inner sanctuary, the healing work of transmuting emotions can begin. When you make the decision to sit with your suffering and commit to the simple (but not easy) practice of being present with your experience as it arises, even when you feel at your most vulnerable, that is when you start to contact your real strength and develop the confidence that it is safe to feel fully.

  • Practices to befriend the mind and transform confusion, overwhelm and limitation into awareness, choice and freedom.

Just as our emotions can be overwhelming, so too our minds can  confuse us and keep us stuck in limitation. By staying with your experience of the grieving process as it plays out, you can develop the skill to be totally present to what is, while at the same time witnessing, blessing and releasing, the thoughts and stories that have kept you captured in suffering.  By being aware of the mind’s stories, and considering them with love, you have the choice to take in whatever is nourishing to you and to release whatever no longer serves you. In this way you develop awareness, choice, freedom and true autonomy.

 

“This crucial shift in consciousness is a shift from hard work to creative play; from efforting to allowing and witnessing; from pursuing time-oriented goals to facilitating the emergence and unfolding of life. Some might call this a shift to a more feminine, intuitive, natural way of being. I believe this is the paradigm shift so many people are talking about now. The key is to trust and surrender to the intelligence of life, of which we are each a part. To move forward with grace, we need only align with what is true and co-operate skilfully with life’s intelligence. This is the process of transformation by which we can individually and collectively give birth to the whole new human and a whole new world.” 

– From Sitting with Death e-book

Through working with Rose I have learned to figure out who I am and what I want from life;  to discover where I am most present and most resistant; to appreciate we are all connected with everyone and everything that surrounds us; to be more authentic, support the planet, and connect with like-minded people to help develop a more spiritually aware community. Margo Ann Wright, Massage therapist

Rose’s enthusiasm made the experiential learning exciting. A demonstration of her skills was worth a thousand words of text.
Ailsa Clague, Counselor

What I see is Rose’s exceptional ability to hold to a higher vision or direction that serves as a valuable guide for people looking for direction.  Rose is very much a catalyst as well as a guide, and is able to hold a certain group tension that allows a group of individuals to explore new territory, taking them further, expanding their consciousness as individuals, and becoming contributing members of new group consciousness.
John Massey, Yoga teacher IYTA NZ, Workshop facilitator,

 

When you join this 9 week programme you will receive: 

  • A copy of my e-book, Sitting with Death;
  • Nine weekly, online sessions of self-inquiry and experiential learning, including: Explorations of key themes through short video or audio teachings; Questions for reflection and inquiry to help you explore your experience and discover your own truth; Experiential practices to develop skills in self support and self nurturance; Guided meditations you can use again and again. 
  • 3 x 90 minute small group coaching sessions where you have the support to move through and beyond old sticking places, dive deeper and then make those essential leaps of consciousness. 
  • Recorded conversations with practitioners and healers sharing their own stories of transition and the solutions that work for them.

    fee: 

    £150.00 Add to cart


    There are scholarships available for those of you who feel drawn to this work and whose financial resources are limited. Please contact me

    Not sure if this is for you?

Please email me and tell me a little about yourself, the challenges you’re facing, why you’re attracted to this course and any doubts and questions you have. I’ll do my best to get back to you within 24 hours.

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